Childhood Tantrums

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 Childhood Tantrums

Today a very interesting topic would be discussed and that is Childhood Tantrums:
:point_right: A “tantrum” is a reaction against some odd circumstantial affairs that contributes in upsetting the child’s mood or behaviour.
:black_small_square:Indeed the child is overwhelmed by emotions thus unleashing his feelings in a dramatic way !
:black_small_square:Temper tantrum range from whining (crying), screaming or yelling, kicking the floor, punching the walls, hitting the parents or even breath holding spells may occur.
:black_small_square: Equally common in boys and girls.
:black_small_square:Temper tantrum s usually occur in between 1 to 3 years of age or even in later age groups.
:black_small_square: Tantrums are normal part of child’s development. They can be shown in different ways which are clear indicators that the child is upset or frustrated.
:black_small_square:At times, tantrum is “a powerful way to seek attention”.
:black_small_square:As toddlers can’t express themselves properly so they can’t say or demand clearly or openly, that what do they want, feel or need thus in such cases a frustrating behavior may cause a tantrum.
:black_small_square:As language skills improve, the degree of tantrum tend to decrease.
:black_small_square:Common Factors that may result in tantrum :
* when the kids are tired
* or they are hungry
* or when they are feeling sleepy
* or they demand for certain toys
* or when anyone amongst the parents are not present around
* or when they want to go outside or demand for a car’s ride
* or want to eat something special as per their requirement etc etc.!
* or want to go into the mother’s lap from the baby-sitter etc.
:black_small_square: Here, the parents must also critically analyze their own behaviour or attitude while handling / tackling a child with a temper tantrum.
:black_small_square:If the parents handle the child with tantrums on more technical grounds and with politeness, rest assume you get desired positive results in a much shorter span of time.
:black_small_square:Do try to tackle the tantrum child as per child’s psyche, you will certainly achieve your required goals.:point_right: Toddlers want independence and control over their environment more than they can actually handle. This can lead to “power struggles”; as a child he/she thinks that “I can do it myself” or “I want it, give it to me”! When they discover that they can’t do it and can’t have everything they want, they may suffer with a tantrum.
How Tantrums Can Be Avoided
:black_small_square: Try to prevent tantrums from happening in the initial stages, whenever possible.
:black_small_square:Give plenty of positive attention.
:black_small_square: Reward your little one with lot of praise and  attention for the positive behaviour.
:black_small_square:Try to give toddlers some control over little things :
For example ;
Offer minor choices such as
* “Do you want orange juice or apple juice”?
* Do you want to brush your teeth before or after taking a bath ?
:black_small_square:Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach :
* This makes struggles less likely.
* Obviously this is not always possible especially outside the home where the environment and circumstances can’t be controlled.
:black_small_square: Distract your child’s attention :-
* Take advantage of your little one’s short attention span by offering something else in place of what they can’t have !
* Begin some new activity to replace the frustrating or forbidden one or change the environment.
* Take your child somewhere outside or move to a different room.
:black_small_square:Do assist the kids to learn new skills or help them to learn to do new things.
* Start with something simple before moving on to more challenging tasks.
:black_small_square:Do consider the request carefully when your child wants something.
Is it outrageous ?
May be it is not.
* It is important to convince him with a proper logic .
:black_small_square: Recognize your child’s limits :
If you know, your toddler is tired, certainly it is not the best time outside for a recreation or to take him for shopping etc. !How to tackle a child with a tantrum:
:black_small_square:Keep yourself calm and cool when responding to a tantrum child.
Do not complicate the problem with your own frustrations and anger.
Your job is helping your child learn to calm down so you need to calm too.
:black_small_square:You need to provide comfort, if your child is tired or hungry ; it’s time for a nap or snack.
:black_small_square:At other times, it’s best to ignore an outburst or distract your child with some new interesting activity.
:black_small_square:If a tantrum happens after the child has been refused for something by the parents, stay calm and do not give lot of explanations.
:black_small_square: Move on to another activity with your child.
:black_small_square:Kids, who are in danger of hurting themselves or others during a tantrum ; should be taken to a quiet safe place to calm him down. This also applies to tantrums in public places or gatherings.
:black_small_square:If a safety issue is involved and the toddler repeats the forbidden behaviour after being told to stop, use a time-out or hold the child firmly for several minutes. Be consistent in this regard.
:black_small_square: Preschoolers and older kids are more likely to have temper tantrums “to get their way”, if they have learnt that this odd behaviour works.
* For school-age kids, it’s appropriate to send them to their rooms to cool off white paying little attention to their awkward behaviour.
Rather than setting a specific time limit, tell your child to stay in the room until he/she regains control. This phenomenon is called “empowering”– kids can affect the outcome by their own actions and thus gain a sense of control that was lost during the tantrum.
* But if the timeout is for a tantrum plus a negative behaviour (such as hitting or punching) then you must set a time limit as well.
:black_small_square:Do not reward your child’s tantrum by giving in. This will only prove to your little one that the tantrum was an effective manoeuver.
:black_small_square:Praise your child for regaining control e.g., I like how you calmed down, it’s a time for a big hug and it would certainly convey a sense of reassurance that the child is loved, no matter what.
:black_small_square:If you keep putting all your efforts in a positive manner, I reassure you that final outcome would prove fruitful Inn Sha Allah.